Harringay, Haringey - So Good they Spelt it Twice!
Music Playing In Back gardens.
This is my second year living in my new home in the middle of the ladder. I must say that recently I have been horrified by the number of my neighbours esp on the gardens backing on to my home either a few up or down think that its perfectly acceptable on a hot summers day (when everyone has their windows and doors open) to take their music into the garden with them and play it at considerable volume. One Neighbour had a party yesterday from 1pm playing music all afternoon and evening. although im about 5 houses away as the crow flies I'm only about 15m from their garden. they may as well have been having the party in my back garden the music was so loud. Music played in the gardens backing onto other houses just gets contained in these back gardens, bouncing off the houses. It was So loud I could hear it sitting in the front room of my house! i would never dream of imposing my music tastes on my neighbours, party or no party. I think playing music outside in built up areas is just unacceptable. At best its Selfish behaviour and at worst Arrogant to assume that you can just impose your social life on people who just want to enjoy being in their homes. Its bad enough with the boom boom boom of wireless festival every now and again but that is a huge public area. And the argument that 'i only do it once a year' is null. Each house affects about 20 houses around them in the immediate vicinity. If we all had a party once a year that would be the whole summer wiped out in noisy saturdays and sundays, have your mates round by all means in your garden but it shouldn't mean it stops anyone from enjoying their own outside space. I did ask nicely if the music could be turned off after 5 hours. But was met with a door slammed in my face with talk about 'Ive got a right to play my music' Well, you dont have a right to play your music so loud I can hear it in my garden/house. Groups of people talking outisde is noisy but flies under the radar. its the music that is SO invasive. i think if it happens again Ill go round with my playlist and insist they play it. If Im going to have to listen to it I think I should be able to chose it! 
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Permalink Reply by Iona on
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Having lived on the ladder for 10 years there is often music that can be heard from other peoples gardens(and from mine for sure) but to be honest given that we are in terraced houses with small gardens I expect nothing else.....surely it's part and parcel of living here especially during the day when I would have thought folk can do what they like.
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Permalink Reply by Shelene Hawkins on
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Perhaps if you weren't such a miserable person you would have been invited in and joined the rest of your neighbours, who were all present and inputting into the playlist. When you knocked on my door the first thing I did was apologise and said I would turn it down. At which point you said it needed to be turned off. Im sorry, but that makes you the arrogant one. We all have the right to have parties in our gardens, and I too get to be on the receiving end of other people' s music selections at times, although I question how you can not like a bit of 'Chicken Fried'. Also, please get your times right. My party didn't even get started until after 2:30pm and the music was totally killed outside by 9- because, although you portray me as an inconsiderate neighbour, I am actually very mindful of the fact that our gardens do indeed back into each others.
So, perhaps I will see you next year? Bring some gin and a smile
All the best
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Permalink Reply by Lizzie R on
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You’re right. I was a miserable git. A combination of hot weather, builders who have been drilling next to me for over 2 months who were working illegally that day and music that was not to my taste pushed me over the edge. I apologise unreservedly and appreciate you turning it down. Like I say Im fairly new to the ladder and its interesting to see that people think its acceptable, so count me in. Consider me a grump no more and really I am very sorry for being the miserable one. Looking forward to better neighbourly relations. Ps. I love gin but am still indifferent to Fried Chicken. Lizzie x
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Lizzie- I feel we need a proper introduction. As you are not one of my connections I couldnt IM you directly. Why dont you pop by sometime this weekend for a coffee?? I believe you know my address:)
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It is a real shame that you feel this way, unfortunately given the fact of how the Ladders are designed it' can feel like we live in very close proximity to each other, however the upside is there is a tangible sense of community.
I have to say as an attendee of this particular party, but not the host, the music was played in the day but was turned off at 9 pm which I think is considered norm for garden party etiquette. I can say that the party was attended by many locals and was a really happy occasion that was only slightly dampened by the rather premature insistence to turn the music off which was made I believe at 5pm.
The intention was not to offend and as these parties aren't frequent I think it often best to accept that we live in back to back terraces and sometimes we are forced to participate in others festivities even if we aren't invited or planned.
i have lived here for 10 years and the main difference I have seen is that the music now stops in the evening rather than the following morning which is a big improvement.
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So glad you Ladderions have resolved your differences amicably. However if that amiable HOL exchange had taken place in a TV drama or sitcom I would have thought 'yeah right, THAT'S realistic!' So a pat on the back all round for you decent folk!
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Permalink Reply by Sarah on
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Yes such a lovely thing to see!
I live on an estate where only some people have a garden. About once a month the people over the fence out the front of my flat have a party. I always feel jealous of their garden! And I'm also very curious to know where they're from as I don't recognise the music.
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Permalink Reply by Richard Hulbert on
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print that out and pop it through their door - People are generally lovely. You never know you could be looking up at your flat next party ;)
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