Harringay, Haringey - So Good they Spelt it Twice!
try talking
I blame the rising divorce rate on the mobile phone (with enhancements!)
couples don't talk so don't get to know anything about each other
you see them on buses and in restaurants all the time - instead of enjoying each other's company and finding reasons to develop and prolong their relationship, one is on the mobile while the other stares out of the window, reads something or is on his/her mobile
thank goodness, some restaurants are banning the use of mobiles but, at a restaurant last night, at a neighbouring table, the girl's mobile rang several times and the resultant fatuous conversations with her girlfriends obviously bored her partner.
living with another person permanently is never easy but it is more possible if preparation enables understanding
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Permalink Reply by Abi on
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Blaming advances technology for behaviour that would present itself by some means or other whatever enablements are available is never a great starting point for a debate.
Good luck with that.
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Permalink Reply by GillianM on
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I partially agree with Sally actually - you've got the whole world available in your pocket - very tempting - so I'm not sure that the behaviour would present itself by some other means. Not just your partner but your children too. There are signs up in nurseries now reminding parents to put their phones away and listen / talk to their children.
I'm guilty of this sometimes and have to make an effort at times to put my phone away!
But then, a lot of time I spend looking at my phone I'd be reading a book or magazine so in that respect it is can be just a different media.
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Maybe it's just more interesting than whatever it is you're supposed to be doing at the time...?
Trust me, people have always ignored their kids if they don't want to be bothered interacting with them. Bad parenting has been around as long as people have been having kids.
Don't parents get rightfully annoyed at being told how to live their lives like that, anyway? Talk about patronising. I think my theme for this week is going to be pointing out to people when they're attacking symptoms, not causes. It's maddeningly common.
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Permalink Reply by Michael Anderson on
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I get both points of view. I was taken to a Heston Blumenthingy restaurant as a birthday treat last year and while we oo'd and ah'd over the various concoctions brought to the table, the couple on the next one both sat texting through their entire meal, not exchanging a word with one another. Maybe without their phones they would have sat in stoney silence as they didn't have anything to say to one another anyway.
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Permalink Reply by Philip on
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this discussion is quite valid and interesting in terms of how people relate to their significant other, but hate to spoil the party by pointing out that divorce rates rose sharply from the 60's to the 90's when they began to fall just as sharply. So there is a declining divorce rate. Easier divorce is likely to have played the main role here. Also it may be that the social acceptability of living together has meant less(sic) people are actually married so fewer(sic) are divorcing.
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I accept that last point but would like to bring the point about children to the fore OK so I'm ancient now but I have always enjoyed talking, rather I should say listening to my kids and now my grandchildren their ideas, their reasoning is fascinating and it is sad to see so many young women (and men on Saturday mornings in Crouch End) accompanied by small children but absorbed in their mobiles
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Some people are introverts and avoid contact with strangers as much as possible though - we had other ways to do it before there were phones!
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LOL
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