As a boy - with three brothers - our parents had a family joke if one of us angrily mentioned leaving home. "You're leaving home? Really? We'll pack you sandwiches."
If Labour councillors, for whatever reason, have already decided to join the Tories, the LibDems or even the Elvis-is-alive-and-living-in-Wood-Green Party, here's my advice.
Go. I'll put tea in a thermos and give you the busfare. Just don't hang around trousering your special allowances and pretending to the electorate.
Brian Haley wouldn't have joined the Lib Dems or talked to us had he not been de-selected. Sadly, many Haringey councillors (mostly Labour) are only in it for the money. There are several people who could be in any political party if that meant being selected, elected and put on the Executive.
My own view is that although (from my point of view) it can be useful to be the benefactor of leaks and gossip, it tells me that such people are fundamentally untrustworthy. Would we want them? If they crap on their own side once then they can do it again.
When Alan Dobbie was in the Labour Party he never told me anything., despite us being close friends. And I never asked him anything.
Personally, I've never spoke to Adje about joining us although he claims to flirt with senior Conservative councillors in places like Westminster.
There are some very decent and conservative councillors who might come over to us one day in the future, but, thankfully, the 3 hapless for WHL are not such examples.
So, Alan and Julie, who would you vote for if you lived in White Hart Lane if you feel so strongly about two of the three Labour candidates?